As a millennial, I witness the things going on these days, first hand. I’m very much aware of the fact that I too am not perfect and the older generations will find more flaws in our generation than I find in it but that’s a story for another day. Today, I want to focus on one thing, and that one thing is relationships these days… The broad spectrum. The broad spectrum that is relationships. Now I don’t just mean love relationships, I also mean friendship relationships and family relationships, etc.
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So STORY TIME!!!
There’s this guy, let’s call him George- now I’ve been friends with him for about 5 years (he’s like a brother to me)… now I don’t know if you agree but that’s quite a while. But anyway. There’s a girl too, we can call her Helen – and she has joined the Squad (my friendship group) recently but before that she really used to work on my nerves, she still does but I’ve learnt to tolerate it you know? Which btw is a big thing for me to do. So George started crushing on Helen a few months ago and he’s been crushing hard. Eventually she started liking him too.. and they’re all cutesie and stuff. Like she asked him to go to a youth dinner we had and that’s actually how it all started but their friendship just grew from there but a friendship with the hope of something more. Now let me just mention that my dear friend George is probably the most gentlemanly guy you will ever meet. He is super sweet and knows just how to treat girls and in the 5 years that I’ve known him so far he hasn’t given me a reason to believe otherwise. So through the past few months I’ve been vouching for George, all because I know what type of guy he is and because I know he won’t mess with her. Now, Helen and I are goodish friends right? I mean I’ve grown to be actually quite fond of her and because of that I would obviously look out for her and basically anyone else in the Squad (cause I’m Mother Hen, as they called me.) So last week Tuesday a bunch of us (me, the Squad, some of the girls’ boyfriends, George was there too because Helen invited him) went to get some dinner and then we watched a movie after. During the movie, Helen and George were holding hands!!! CUTEST THING! So that’s when we all knew; “They might as well make it official, because they’re gonna be dating before this year ends.”
After that group get-together, Helen started getting really distant. She stopped replying to my messages, and I mean she full-on read them and didn’t bother to reply but I left it and then George told me that she was doing the same… Now let me just mention that I was pretty much like Cupid because I helped him with her and I helped her with him.
George, had plans to take her on a really amazing date and then ask her out on this date then before he could even get to asking her on this date she sent him this: “Sorry that I’ve been distant lately, I have been very busy with work. How are things? Btw, I really appreciate our friendship, it’s always nice to get a guy’s view on things without it needing to be more than friendship. Hope we can get together sometime in the holidays.”
let’s end the story right there
The job that she talks about is her little holiday job, she works 4 hours a day and she can go in whenever she wants so I find that excuse slightly lame. Now when George sent me this screenshot and asked me if she had just friend zoned him, I couldn’t answer him. I mean that’s definitely what she did but I couldn’t understand what she was thinking. Let’s just realize that she likes him. How could she friend zone him? And then I tried asking her but once again just reads and doesn’t reply… and that’s when I lost it. She had been leading him on this whole time. She goes on about how she’s never had a boyfriend and she cries because she’s single but when the opportunity arises she takes it and throws it in the furthest toilet. Now I can fully understand if it’s because she didn’t like him but what did she think was gonna happen after she just went with it after a few months? Did she think he was going to get over her if she just dragged it out? Did she think he would eventually forget about her? With all these questions to be asked I can answer them all by saying… leading him on was not the right thing to do.
JUMPING BACK INTO STORY LAND!!!
After she didn’t reply to my messages, I took it to the group chat and brought the other girls in too… I said what I wanted to say in the nicest insulting way and then… when she finally replied. World War # happened and then she turned it all on me. She asked me questions that she knew the answers to. Questions like “Who gave you the right to mess around in my life and who gave you the right to tell me how to live my life?” and I hate to break it to her but that’s how friendship works. if you don’t want people in your business please become a recluse and go live on a mountain somewhere and go off the grid, grow your own vegetables,etc. Just stay away from people.
ending the story again
BACK TO THE POINT OF THIS POST.
I see how people do this type of thing all the time these days, older people are always telling me that today’s youth just doesn’t know how to do it right anymore. And I hate to say it but most people genuinely do not know how to do it. People are dating online, they meet someone online and somehow develop a great relationship and they start dating without ever meeting each other in person, first of all in this sick world that we live in; how do you know for sure that someone is who they say they are? You can never know. And then there’s people just dating because it’s fun and they just want to date that person because of the things that person has to offer. I always thought you should date someone with the intentions of marrying that person some day; I mean if it doesn’t work out then obviously it wasn’t meant to be but there’s no need to rush into things? Am I right?
Anyway, before I rant about everything that’s wrong with this world I’ll end it right there. I’ll give you some time to think about what I said.
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